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wtf?

by Sandy

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I don’t think I’ll ever understand men. Today I received the most random message ever from the guy I see when I’m back in Iowa…which isn’t very often… and I kind of decided to just let go because really, what’s the point right?

I checked my email and had one of those Facebook messages–the kind that says “John Doe” sent you a message. My heart stopped. I thought that since we hadn’t really talked for the last two weeks –which was actually a pretty sorry excuse for a talk at all– it meant he was letting it/us/the whole thing go too.

I open up the message to see…and I quote:
“Hello stranger…how are things? I have been busy with soccer and teaching but felt bad that I was ignoring you. Did you move into your place or are you waiting… I can’t remember? I went on a blind date the other night…interesting. I think that everyone around my age in Dubuque that happens to be a cool girl is either pregnant, has a kid, or was divorced. Wow. Hope all is going well, but wanted to give you a brief outline of how much free time I don’t have.”

Doubleyoo tee eff… What is all that? Can someone, preferably a guy, please translate? I don’t know what any of that means. Is this another weird game to which I don’t know the rules?

So far the interpretations –all two of them—are across the board:

Male friend/coworker: “He’s saying he likes you but is moving on.”

Well, duh. I assumed we were both adult enough to not pretend we’d wait around for each other–but I don’t divulge details about my dates to him… nor do I plan on doing it in a half-hearted blurb of verbal diarrhea on Facebook any time soon.

Dad: “He’s saying he’d still be dating you if you were around Sand.”

I’m at a loss…and really, just… don’t know how to respond. Lay it on me–what the hell is he talking about and more importantly, what do I say back?


6 Responses to “wtf?”

  1. =) Says:

    A few facts to point out before I give my 2 cents:

    1. We don’t know the guy or what his tendencies are.
    2. What conversations did or did not take place prior to the email.

    That being said, it seems that the most simplest interpretation would be similar to what Mr. Colleague and what Dad have said. But I will say some additional things:

    1. Seems like a (inadvertent) game was going on to see who would crack first - you or him. It looks like he cracked first. Weird though how he says he was ignoring you (did you try to contact him? Or was that a line he just threw in?)
    2. In addition, he mentions going on a date. It seems that he is at least trying to move on. BTW - and I’m sure you’re already aware, “interesting” is not indicative of a good date.
    3. But to add some irony to it, he tells you how crappy it was and how there are really no other cool women there. In reference to You. He’s comparing you to the other girls.
    4. He seems to be trying to “keep in touch” with you, just in case.
    5. FYI - I could lose my Man Card for all this information I’m giving you.

    Overall, look at it as a positive because regardless of how the tones seem to contradict themselves in the email he did make contact and there’s no hiding that. Even if another girl is giving him advice on how he should compose and create the email, he’s the one who’s contacting you. If so, that’s a whole other story. But the dude likes you, no doubt about it and he’s having a hard time letting go. My advice: reply by telling him you took part in an intense group orgy this weekend. Ok, I’m kidding. About it taking place this weekend. Kidding! I’m kidding! Keep doing what you’re doing and just move forward. If it’s meant to be it will happen. If not, then some other guy is doing daily blogs on the internet too, waiting for you to come around.

    BTW - I know that was you in that photo. Liar.

    =)

  2. =) Says:

    P.S. - it’s always very easy to misinterpret tones / meanings / intent / context in any email.

  3. Sandy Says:

    Gah… no, he’s never ignored me. Being a “words” person, I found it weird of him to use that word because he’s been the initiator of all contact every time since I came back to SD.. by the way, I’m not necessarily proud of that. I know I’m a big chicken. Anyway, Thank you cmp, I feel a little better now…and yes, makes perfect sense.

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