wowsers vowsers
My friends (a couple) got married last Saturday.
It is really hard for me to come to grips with reality and realize that yes, I am in fact old enough for the people around my age – including my (gasp!) friends – to get married. They are off making life commitments to each other. “Til death do us part.? The Word says so. I on the other hand, have issues committing to a picking up the office payroll. Who knows? I might get stuck in traffic/what if I get in a car accident?/the (gorgeous mmm) FedEx guy might show up at my door…whatev. Any and/or all of the above are plausible consequences to my aforementioned “commitment.? Til DEATH DO US PART?! Really?
Does it count if either of us is responsible for said (accidental of course! Sheesh!) death… of one or the other? What if we just so happened to become so passionate in love that one of us licks and therefore eats the other alive? What if my beloved (let’s pretend it’s the FedEx guy, k?) actually spoon-feeds himself to me (like frozen custard!) in order to “become one? with me? Does the “til death? rule have a cannibalism clause? I must say, that really is a whole new take on that Spice Girls hit…(singing…totally on key) When two become one… anyway…
Hey, I just want to know what I’m in for when I’m committing to anything (or anyone! for that matter), for life… Hmm… I may need to consult a lawyer…sounds a bit like a contract to me… “Each party MUST refrain from biting to wherefore said teeth protrusion breaks skin and therefore leads to the eating of the other alive…? Now that’s romance. I’m getting giddy. (Sarcasm, people…read it. Please, just roll your eyes and move on.)
What is my deal, man? Is my mom right? Have I just not found the “right one? yet? Or am I just a commit-o-phobe/ relationship-relunct? What is the fundamental difference between me … and a marital maven?
May 8th, 2008 at 4:26 pm
So you said that your IN in committing to anyone…well, what are the qualifications? (He should be handsome, Rich etc)..
May 8th, 2008 at 4:26 pm
So you said that your IN in committing to anyone…well, what are the qualifications? (He should be handsome, Rich etc)..
Anyway thanks for sharing your thoughts…
June 7th, 2008 at 3:52 pm
Omg, I have the same committment issue about small things, too: saying whether I’ll actually go to a party I’m invited to, etc. AND I’ve never had a relationship that’s lasted longer than a few months. Coincidence?? Heck no!!
From my vantage point, it’s just that I haven’t met the right guy yet, but after eight years of dating, that doesn’t seem statistically possible, does it? Anyway, sounds like you’re in the same boat. But yeah, with every one of my friends’ marriages (and there have been a few just in the last year!!) my heart takes it like another blow, like a gunshot to the liquid metal guy in Terminator 2…
September 25th, 2008 at 2:02 pm
I think that the difference is just that you’re more cautious about who you’re going to make a lifetime commitment to. It’s like choosing your family. What else do you have to spend your whole life with? I was reading some blogs on vdateonline.com about how women dream of getting married their whole lives. My sister was like that, she thought that if someone wanted to marry her, that that validated her existence. She was worthy. So she married the first guy that was really into her. You just don’t live in dreamland and you’re realistic about marriage. When you find someone that you couldn’t live without…then mayyybbee marriage will sound more appealing…
February 2nd, 2009 at 4:14 pm
I will never get married again for one simple reason. It’s all for the state and sanctioned in the eyes of the government. Why do it for legal reasons? If you love someone, have a commitment ceremony. That is why we have such a high divorce rate.
No reason to get married.
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July 7th, 2009 at 2:24 pm
oh wow, I feel exactly the same! How is anyone around me able to make these kind of comitments?!