Predictable?
Tonight on my drive home, I was listening to “Loveline� on the radio.
A caller phoned in and was basically trying to figure out how to be attracted to “nice� guys. She explained her childhood as being pretty traumatic.
When she was three, her mother passed away. Her dad took her and raised her but by the time she was ten, he was a verbally abusive alcoholic. Dr. Drew told her to avoid anyone she’s even remotely attracted to because those men will inevitably be emotionally unavailable, addictive personalities and the only way she’ll be able to find “nice� guys who’ll treat her well will be to go through extensive therapy.
Is there any truth to this, do you think? Are our dating lifestyles and types pre-programmed at an early age…predestined and predictable?
I’m just trying to figure out if any of the men I’ve dated have characteristics in common let alone pinpoint something in my childhood that would make me gravitate towards a certain distinct personality.
What do you think?
July 10th, 2007 at 3:38 pm
Yes definitely! I grew up in a difficult household not knowing that my parents relationship was not “normal” and thinking that it was okay for be less important than the other person. when i started dating i found in my relationships i echoed this behavoir doing whatever the person wanted and basically became a rug from the to wipe their feet on. I’m in therapy now and can realize that and my mom divorced my dad so she is recovering too. Its scary!
November 17th, 2007 at 7:53 pm
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