Letting go…
Since my unexpected parcel last week, I have had breakups—particularly mine with JC—on the mind. Thankfully as part distraction, I have been catching up on some reading this weekend. In Myreah Moore and Jodie Gould’s Date Like a Man, the ladies pull together a cut-and-dry “Ex-Files Quiz� to help women better identify when it is time to let go of that guy who just doesn’t seem to cut it…
“How do you know when it’s time to let go?
1. Do you find yourself making lame excuses like “My cat needs me� when he asks you out?�
2. Do you start flirting shamelessly with waiters and delivery-men?
3. Did you “forget� hisbirthday?
4. Do you find yourself daydreaming about a solo vacation to Cancun?
5. Did you get a promotion because of all the extra time you’re spending at work?
6. Did you recently install Caller ID?
7. Did you change your screen name?
8. Have you taken to killing large bugs and lifting heavy objects yourself?
9. Are your girlfriends telling you to “dump the bastard�?
10. Is he starting to remind you of your other ex-boyfriends?
If you answered yes to five or more of the questions above, it’s time for you to ex-terminate your relationship.”
Wow. I’m taking a silent inventory and realizing just how much I’ve learned in my 7+ years of dating men… I must admit, my standards (which were slim to none when I began because I had even less of a clue then than I do now) have completely changed. It’s weird because I’ve become someone who follows intuition about each date and goes from there. I think it’s necessary to kiss the toads to figure out what you ultimately want out of a man, a relationship and yourself.
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