Know it
“If he’s interested, you’ll know it. You won’t have to guess.� My dad, a hopeless romantic and rebel at heart, made sure my mom knew he was interested. He just broke off his engagement to his high school sweetheart. She was dating around having just ended a three year relationship herself. They spent the end of summer together and had a blast. Fall came and she had to go back to college, despite his attempts and pleas to make her stay.
Three months, and they knew. They knew they wanted to promise “til death,� to one another. Three months.It wasn’t until he sent two dozen roses and hitchhiked the three hour drive to her university that he finally convinced her to come back. In November, she accepted his proposal. In May, married him.
Twenty-eight years later they have me, a twenty-three year old daughter who tries to find a balance between envying and being skeptical albeit hopeful of the possibility of finding something comparable in her life.
I guess I have someone who’s “into� me. He didn’t leave me much room for guessing when he was coaching ninety miles north and would have to be there the following day…but I was leaving to head back to San Diego the next day and he wanted to see me. So he made the trip down to see me. It takes me back to Sex and the City’s Charlotte who talks about the “grand gesture� …and I because a lot of the men I’ve dated recently haven’t been into the double G thing, I like to think of his trek as a grand gesture… one that makes me not have to guess. I guess. 
My personal gauges on how to tell He’s Just Not Worth it or He’s Just Not That Into You Part I and Part II
December 5th, 2007 at 10:37 pm
[...] I don’t know. What I do know is that for “no longer being a misogynist,� he really liked to “correct� me. Although, unbeknownst to him, most of his “corrections� were just him not understanding my dry, sarcastic, often facetious and sometimes callous humor. Not only did I imagine myself getting increasingly irritated with him, I wonder to myself what other women without patience think. What would other people in my position – right then and there- do? [...]