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Just not that into each other

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So here’s a mutual albeit weird he/she’s “just not that into you� scenario. Well, my intuition says it’s mutual. But for whatever reason—we’re both “too nice,� feel obligated to “be friends,� or maybe one (meaning him…I think? Because I think I’m pretty indifferent at this point) is actually holding on for …something yet to be seen? Maybe? I can’t really tell. Is that sad or what?

I have gone on two dates with this guy. During the week we keep in contact through email and the last two weekends he was planning on being away… until the day before suddenly it’s a newsflash that he’s going to be in town. Great. He asks me if I’d be interested in doing something. Okay, sidebar: What the hell does that phrase mean? Because naïve li’l ol’ me here thought that meant “let’s plan something and hey—here’s an idea…let’s stick to the original plan.� So we agree to hypothetical plans. Well played. But apparently I’m a moron because the day of he either texts or calls and asks if I’m still interested in hanging out. Then proceeds to tell me he and his friends are participating in x, y and z at the [insert random location where there is little parking and likely has a cover charge here].

Why even ask me if I want to hang out? Why not say upfront that you and your friends are probably going to do something as a group and then ask me if I want to join you all instead of it being an afterthought and therefore total change to the original plan… I don’t get it. What I don’t understand is that I don’t think either of us is really interested enough to care a whole lot—but then why are we wasting each other’s time just humoring each other throughout the week? Because it’s better than nothing? Is that it? Pssh. I guess…


4 Responses to “Just not that into each other”

  1. =) Says:

    Holy Smokes Sandy, you look pretty hot in that photo there. You should really take me out to dinner. And then get me drunk. Whoa.

  2. Sandy Says:

    Haha well that’s flattering… unfortunately though, the picture isn’t of me. Hey by the way, I need a translator to interpret guyese… details to come. :)

  3. Zonedate.com Says:

    Um. Ouch. You don’t need a guyese translator. He’s an ass and you were “Plan B”. I’d say find someone who doesn’t think that his social life should imitate an episode of “Friends”.

  4. Sandy Says:

    I need the translation for “wtf?”…I just posted it… lay it on me. Don’t hold back now.

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