He’s Just Not That Into You Part I
Unless you’ve been living in a cave for the last two years, you have probably read or at least felt the effects of the uproar over “He’s Just Not That Into You.� In this matter-of-fact book of dating diagnoses, Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo offer a controversial yet liberating resolve to precisely 97.6% of the woes of dating. Of course, the remaining 2.4% is leftover for exceptions or those of us out there who are celibate, bipolar or asexual. Scenario after scenario (read: he doesn’t call when he says he’s going to; he falls off the face of the earth for two weeks flat; he’s simply married) is dissected in order to make women come to one realization and one realization only: the guy she is seeing is just not that into her.
Why is it that we women make everything so complicated and assume that every situation with a man must be complicated as well? I know I’m guilty of this…surely my female friends are… wait for it, I’m counting…yes it’s true, we’re all insane. I’m sorry, I can’t help I was born with two X chromosomes.
Allow me to explain…most recently, I was casually seeing a guy I admittedly was pretty into. He was great—we got along, had similar senses of humor and we had fun together. But it was nagging me…actions speak louder than words right? Was it just a coincidence that every date we went on included a movie he chose or ended with “hanging out� with a group of mutual friends? Wasn’t it weird that randomly I wouldn’t hear from him for over a week at a time and when confronted about it would tell me that I was supposed to call him like it was a game of “tag.�
“Oh, he wants to take it slow,â€? I’d tell myself. “I’m not originally from California and maybe he’s scared to get close for fear of me moving away…â€? Or, “His longest relationship has only been three months; I just think he doesn’t know what to do since he hasn’t had much experience with pursuing women;â€? or my personal favorite, “Maybe he’s intimidated by me—he said so himself… He actually used the phrase “the girl of his dreamsâ€? to describe me to my face!â€? It all sounds so romantic and lovely and great, really…to a woman. What a load of crap. And I fell for it. Well, a little. Sigh. Gotta love the drama created within the imagination.
xx
Sandy
May 10th, 2007 at 9:46 am
Believe it or not men go through the same thing, so maybe we’re all insane.
In fact I went through something similar with a girl who had a habit of emailing me every ten days or so. Just when I think she blew me off for good, I get another email where she apologizes for the delay (due to her being bad at email and her busy job). I gave her the benefit of the doubt, and when her birthday came along, I sent her flowers, nothing fancy, just a nice small bouquet to show her I cared. She promptly thanked me, and invited me to give her a call. I called several times, left several message, emailed several times, and never got an answer again. That was over a month ago.
I guess she just wasn’t that in to me.
I should have realized even if a person leads a busy life and a busy job, nobody’s THAT busy that they can’t call or email you within a week if they really wanted to.
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