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When we get disappointed in someone–namely, in love and relationships–where does it come from?

We all have expectations of others. I expect friends, family, lovers to maintain a certain level of decorum, to have compassion and to treat me the way they would like to be treated.

I guess, in dating it’s not something that is so cut and dry. Perhaps, to them, you are something other than who that person is to you. The label they give you is different. You’re at a different level. You’re not his “girlfriend,” you are his “friend with benefits,” and vice versa. Usually it has something to do with being on a pedestal where you do no wrong; or conversely, you’re beneath them…you’re naive and foolish and occasionally you just might exceed expectations because they have them set so low for you.

Is it human nature to give ourselves and other too much or too little credit? I think so. I think we base so much of our identity and definitions of our lives on success, power and money that we forget some of the most important things…like being first and foremost a friend…to everyone/anyone… and taking people for who they are rather than their vast accomplishments or again, conversely, their vast amount of screwups.


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