Don’t shy away
I’ve been known to get a case of it… Most people who know me would never characterize me as being “shy,� but I’d beg to differ with them. I get so nervous sometimes when I’m around a guy I fancy.
I won’t know what to say, my palms get sweaty, I laugh in a way that could only be described as a chortle—if he’s lucky, it will be followed by a snort… you get the idea.
In the book, Dating for Dummies, Dr. Joy Browne suggests a few ways to overcome shyness:
+ Practice smiling and making eye contact. Lift your chin off your chest and nonverbally connect with people who seem nice and interesting to you. (No touching; just look and smile.)
+ Decide to chat with one new person a week. It can be in the grocery store, the school cafeteria, the line at the bank. Nothing breeds success like success. (You know, she does have a point…)
+ Act “as if.� If everyone waited until they were totally comfortable before trying anything new, no one would do anything new! Pretend you’re not shy and act “as if� you’re full of confidence.
+ Have fun! – shift the focus away from your own fears and zero in on what makes someone else tick. Before you know it, you’ll forget all about being shy.
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