“Consistence” …the key?
So tonight I had to do something I don’t really enjoy and that is being brutally honest. To the point where I feel like I’m crossing the line just a little.
The artist formerly known as “smokey breath” continues to pursue. However, it had been a couple of weeks since his last point of contact and so his latest message was one of concern…and was even bordering on a line of defense. He was asking if he had said something horrible to offend me during our last encounter…
Now, he’s the one who works with people in relationships. He studies STDs and people’s sexual behaviors and behaviors in and out of relationships with others.
He is the one who swelled with pride about his vast knowledge in being able to manipulate the actions of others around him by merely acting or reacting in a certain way.
He was the one who was so confident in his stance that he spoke with conviction at how important it is when letting someone go, to be “consistent” with the strategy.
In my letting go of him, I chose to tell him right away how I felt–nothing–and then proceeded with silence. And I chose to be consistent.
He, in turn, continued to pursue…I decided to ignore it instead of protest for fear of leading him on…
okay, so what did he expect? Did he think I was just being coy and playing hard to get so he could conquer me in his attempt to win me over? Or is he just dense in his refusal to take my word for what I know I didn’t feel? …
November 10th, 2007 at 11:52 pm
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