A few Dating Do’s
It’s been a day of reflection… here are some Dating Do’s for the guys. Feel free to add your own to the list.
If you ask her out—
Find out the essentials ahead of time. Is she vegetarian? Can she handle her alcohol? If so, you may want to avoid the steakhouses and sports bars…or maybe you will want to skip dinner and head straight to happy hour.
Plan it–all of it. Unless you’re absolutely sure she’ll come up with an idea that’s better than yours. Just because you happen to be indecisive and boring does not make it okay for you to make her research things to do and guess as to whether or not you’ll enjoy yourself. This is especially true when you’ve grown up here and she has lived here a year. Ahem. Alright, snide comments aside, trust me—she will appreciate the time it took and the thought that was put into making the date special for her.
Pick her up. Unless she vehemently insists that you meet her (which, by the way is code that she thinks you have stalker potential). If that is the case, not a good sign. Try not to seem so eager, k?
Pay for her share even if she insists on going dutch. I am notorious for offering to pay for my share of the date, but I’m going to say it right now. This is a test. Don’t be fooled. Pay for her. This test doesn’t really have anything to do with money. It has everything to do with whether or not you’ll stand up to her and how you do it.
If a guy will put me in check and tell me I’m being ridiculous—especially when I know he’s right—I’m much more inclined to respect his opinion in the future.
I have a date tomorrow night with the bloke who inspired this list. I’m placing my bets that I’ll have more to add before the week is through…wish me luck 
November 18th, 2007 at 2:50 am
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November 28th, 2007 at 11:38 am
I enjoy reading your blog- keep up the great work!
November 30th, 2007 at 1:32 am
Hey thanks Julie–it’s good to know someone’s reading
December 14th, 2007 at 9:55 am
Ok, huge pet peeve of mine–as a guy who’s dated many feminists, and who believes in feminism, this situation has come up for me frequently. And even though I think it’s antiquated to expect the guy to pay in a world where men and women work, I’m old fashioned, so I’m always going to try to take check and pay it, but there’s nothing more irritating than having to argue about it, and if a lady is going to insist on paying all or half, I’m not going to fight her over it.
Look at it this way: in some ways, it takes a bigger man to get over yourself and let a lady pay for you, if that’s what she really wants to do
February 22nd, 2008 at 8:32 am
FEMINISM……..Like Unions, it has had it’s time and GONE.
EQUALITY………Does not exist. Check any work place and see how the women conduct themselves. You’ll find lots of dedicated feminists beating the drum about equality, and then carrying on in a manner that leaves more than a little to be desired. Political correctness has screwed feminism into a gigantic excuse for most women to stamp their feet and cry when the going gets tough;
For God’s sake, lets put women back into jobs that suit their personality and emotional perspective, rather than trying to enter every workplace and making it so difficult to get the job done. I will treat men and women equally when they start to carry themselves in a fashion that does not guarantee anything except that which they work for….I’m a meatworker, and the number of women I have seen in my workplace who simply cannot hack the pace is LEGION. Expectations of treatment based on how their husbands/boyfriends treat them does not wash, and the next woman that makes a complaint based on ‘tone of voice’ will get w swift right cross from me, followed by my exit from that company in my own time…..
EQUALITY is not something that goes hand in hand with gender differences. If you don’t like the atmosphere, GET OUT and let the remainder get on with the job…..I do not see the feminist movement calling on women in our western society to hold ARMED COMBAT ROLES in the military. Exchange of sexual favours for preferential treatment is more prevalent than ever before, and watch a woman start to cry and see all the men who think they are in with a chance to open their legs cluster around and be protective….WAKE UP TO YOURSELVES…
I am reminded of Orwell….
“All animals are equal to all other animals, but some are more equal than others”
Get the women out of the manual workplace and into an office, or in a job dealing with the public, where they can paint their nails and gossip about last nights date without putting everybody else behind….
Watch the comments flow from the women mechanics, etc…..Yes, I am generalizing, but Feminism is a gigantic generalization from it’s very inception, so take it on the chin
February 22nd, 2008 at 8:36 am
Germaine Greer has a lot to answer for…I’m waiting for the first woman president of the United States…..we may well see change in our lifetime that actually makes a difference….women make such better politicians than men, and there are a host of other jobs they do, INCLUDING COMBAT ROLES in the military….so you see, I’m not for equality, but for simply acknowledging that women and men are wired DIFFERENTLY and should be treated on this basis….
October 22nd, 2009 at 2:15 pm
Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.