A dozen years…
Am I a fool, naive or silly for using an intangible and inexplicable feeling as a standard for whether or not I’ll entertain the thought of having something of substance with someone.
Last night, I went on a date with someone I just met. It was a lot of fun. We enjoyed each other’s company.
At the end of the date I found out his age…that being twelve years older than me.
I am going to do what many women refuse to do unless having to prove it in order to get into a bar or club. It’s something I have not yet shared with ya’ll and that is reveal my age. I am twenty three years old. And a fairly fresh twenty three at that.
Maybe it’s irrelevant, but often times people mistake me for being much younger. When people ask if I’ve graduated, usually they’re referring to high school when I have in fact actually graduated from college.
On days I go completely without makeup and/or decide to wear my black plastic framed glasses, I have been mistaken for being thirteen.
The man I went on a date with is thirty five. 35! Next year I will be two-thirds his age. That’s a bit steep, isn’t it? I mean come on!
Sigh. This post might end up being a several day rant just to warn you.
August 14th, 2007 at 12:21 am
Well, look at it this way, when you’re 30 he will be 42. BUT, us guys usually act about 4-6 years younger than our actual age. Girls usually act about 2-4 years more mature than their actual age. Know what this means? Yep, from a the mental aspect, he’s about 29 and you’re about 27, which means an actual difference of about 2 years. Now that isn’t so bad now is it?
I think if the mental compatibility is there, it just seems to be a shame to waste the opportunity. I think sometimes we close the book of opportunity before a relationship can actually take off…or truly see if it’s going to be grounded. And perhaps this is where women are different from men since it seems that most or all women (I know) can tell if he’s: Relationship Material, a “Casual Friend with Benefits”, or Just a Friend and Nothing More, and I kid you not - they seem to know within the first few minutes - at the longest - if they fall into one of those 3 categories. Wait a minute, I’m sorry, let me clarify, women seem to THINK they know…
August 14th, 2007 at 12:28 am
Okay, okay. I hear you loud and clear. Maybe I’m not being completely honest here. There’s a HUGE x factor here……………………………………………… see tonight’s post.