3 days and phone tag
Okay, so I get the “three day rule” where ya go out on a date and if it went well, you’ll hear from the other person (in my case, since I have a personal rule of not calling first…I don’t know if it’s old fashioned, me wanting to just revel in being “the girl,” or if it’s me just being lazy…I haven’t decided yet…) three days later.
Okay, who was the genius who came up with this one? Arbitrarily, they decided on the number three…I guess (because come on, no one really knows for sure–it’s just this ridiculous idea made to make me more neurotic than I already am) because one day later is too soon, two days just doesn’t sound right because it’s an even number and…well, if you want to be sequential, call the third day…if he waits until day four I’m off planning a wedding with the cute barista from starbucks on 2nd street… no, he doesn’t know it yet. Sigh. Okay, I get that.
WHAT is this phone tag business? I’ll tell ya what it isn’t! It is not the bizness…that’s for sure. It’s irritating. Call me on a thursday, great! i don’t have my entire weekend planned yet… we have just enough time to squeeze in a jamba juice between my precious beach time and my yoglates (it’s a hybrid workout–it’s new, don’t judge me) class.
maybe I just need to turn my trust to fate and let it go…
August 26th, 2007 at 1:40 am
I’ve completely forgotten what dating was (truth is, I never knew) but I know when my best friend met a guy at a club (I know! Who would have thought!), I told her he wouldn’t call the next day, since it was technically the same day they met (you know, it was past midnight, yadda yadda) for fear of looking desperate, and so I thought he’d call the next day, before 8pm. My logic was (this was almost six years ago and almost everyone we knew lived at home with their parents) that since he didn’t know her, he’d want to call at what would be a decent time should my friend have siblings or parents who go to bed at an early time.
Sure enough he did, and before 8pm too. And almost four years after their first date, they married.
Now maybe the rules are different following a date, but I think two days later is the most I’d accept. It would be nice if we could just call when we wanted to and not “front” a bit, but I too don’t like to be the one to call first.
I guess that’s why they call it the dating game though!
August 26th, 2007 at 3:12 am
Not sure if you are aware but you have a phone as well. Women don’t pay for the meal or have to do anything but show up, I can see how making a call would get in the way of having everything done for you.
Actually I guess you do the complaining for both people don’t you?
September 2nd, 2007 at 12:09 pm
Rules are what kills relationships. I say, do what you want when you want, especially if you have strong feelings for a person. If I was to call a guy the day after he takes me out, I will. If I want to wait for him to call instead, I will. Just go with the flow and your life will be so much less complicated.