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I’m baffled by the couples who make it work. Men and women are so different. And I know this, but it’s nights like tonight when it hits me like a MAC truck–MEN AND WOMEN ARE SO DIFFERENT. I was discussing this issue with a friend… you know who you are. Weigh in if you like.
Apparently there are different rules with “girl code” and “guy code”… from what it seems (and correct me if I’m mistaken…) where women are not allowed to date within even their girlfriends’ realm of possibilities (once a guy is spoken for, he’s off limits–forever–DUN DUN DUN!) ………………. guys are able to overlook having being “the first” to “call dibs” on women they’re interested in… ?
Did I drop the ball? Quite frankly, I don’t get it.
Is it a competition? Is this a cultural norm? Is it American? Or is this phenomenon found to be consistent around the world? Why such a vast difference? I can barely wrap my brain around it–the drama quotient is too high…
August 7th, 2007 at 1:07 am
Funny. I had a very similar conversation with a friend of mine the other night. Very true, men and women are extremely different, coming from different worlds.
It’s not new news that a guy’s duty and role is to approach the woman. And this is never easy, even for those who are very good at it. All of us guys get nervous, every time. But regardless of how successful a guy is at meeting, dating and courting women in the dating world, they always have more failures than successes. For each guy the proportions vary; 1 success for 6 failures; 1 success for 4 failures and so on and so forth. Success of course, is a matter of subjectivity, but we won’t go there. And having said all this, for some of us guys it’s a numbers game.
So here’s one rule of thumb of many: if a guy goes up to a girl and he gets no signage for advancement then the girl is, and I hate to say it like this, but open for the next victim…oops I mean the next guy. There’s no need for her to be, “off the listâ€? if the first guy is unsuccessful. The first guy shouldn’t take it personal because he never lost something he never had to begin with. Hence one of the most important rules for guys to abide by: Don’t take women personally. Chalk up these apparent failures to Experience. If guys do that these don’t categorize as failures.
October 28th, 2009 at 11:29 pm
Ooh dang i just wrote a long comment and as soon as i hit reply it came up blank! Please tell me it worked properly? I dont want to sumit it again if i dont have to! Either the blog bugged out or i am an idiot, the second option doesnt surprise me lol.
October 30th, 2009 at 8:45 pm
Hi just figured i would let you know i had a issue with your blog appearing blank also. Must be monkeys in the page.
November 11th, 2009 at 1:12 am
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