“The Four Agreements� Part I
I’ve been reading a lot lately. If you haven’t picked it up, I would highly suggest reading The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I’ve been giving a lot of thought to the first agreement, “Be impeccable with your word.� In short, say what you mean, mean what you say and if you say you are going to do something, do it. Anything that comes out of your mouth is a direct reflection upon yourself. If you use your mouth to spew verbal inferno, such is you. If you use your words with love, you will be engulfed with love.
I really think this should be a sub category to the golden rule. Anyone (everyone) who has ever been in, will be in, or is currently involved in a relationship, should take this concise but profound statement to heart. It really boils down to a respect issue more than anything else I think. I guess I characterize myself as a “what you see is what you get� type of girl. I am who I am and expect others to just be real with me. Respect me enough to just be upfront and honest with me. When empty promises are made and sweet nothings are spoken, it’s easy to get caught up in the romanticism until reality hits. Spare me the empties and nothings.
I guess I am ultra-critical of this especially with the men I date. If you tell me you’re going to call, I expect you to call. If you don’t and wait several days, I’m going to write you off and consider the source for next time. I won’t be so quick to expect much out of you. I’m a woman—duh. I want to believe you when you’re being sweet. I want to think you’re being genuine. Of course, I want to give you the benefit of the doubt, but after so many times getting burned, experience tells me when to back away from the fire.
Check out The Four Agreements at Don Miguel Ruiz’s website -
xx
Sandy
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